I didn’t get a chance to write a blog this weekend because I was writing a magazine article. So here are my ABC’s to a happier life.
A Accept what is — your reality won’t get better until you accept it–what you resist persists
B Breathe–breathing meditation can change your life.
C Choose to change your thoughts — Brain can only hold one conscious thought at a time
D Vitamin D from sunshine makes everything feel better — 15 minutes of sun on a large area ( your hammock) will give you what you need.
E Exercise is so important for circulation. Moving blood makes you healthy. Doing something you like is best, 20-30 minutes 5 days a week will make a difference.
F Fun — especially if it’s active — is necessary and bonding. Maybe you think gardening is fun, maybe walking or tennis or running. But even if it’s sedentary, do something you like to do.
G God is all about feeling good, but not cheap pretend feel-goods that make you feel worse afterward.
H Health is happiness because when your body is happy, you are.
I Interrupt negative habits and thought patterns.
J Joy has been found to be the single best healer for trauma. What is it? Mostly it comes from God or acceptance–doing something for someone else–knowing you are loved.
K Kindness makes you feel better. And if you give it, you are more likely to get it.
L Love is of course one of the happy makers. Focus on all the forms of love that are available to you. Don’t settle for counterfeits.
M Meditation can be time with God just breathing, it calms and soothes, and the busier you are, the more you need it.
N New–try new things, especially if they don’t cost money.
O Openness — let people know who you are.
P Play and pray are both important activities for happiness.
Q Quit things that hurt you and make your body feel bad.
R Rest! Be sure you get at LEAST 6 hours of sleep at night–7.5 is better :).
S Smile because it makes you feel better, and everyone around you. It communicates love and acceptance.
T Trust people who are trustworthy. If you don’t have any in your life, get your trust issues healed, and then trust God until you can find some.
U Use what you have.
V Velcro your brain to hold good. It takes 10-30 seconds to anchor a thought. Notice and savor the good in your life–breezes, flavors, beauty, smells, sights, sounds…
W Welcome God’s Spirit into your life every morning.
X is for canceling negative thoughts. One negative thought activates CRH which then activates ACTH. The first causes worry, the last causes fear.
Y Yell on paper instead of at your kids or spouse etc.
Z Zip your mouth shut when you want to be negative.