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God has a Sense of Humor–Pt 2

In the first part I wrote that God has been turning a lot of things around on me lately.

I’m not the only one. My daughter has started dating the only friend of her ex-husband that she didn’t like.

I went out to dinner with them recently, and he was giving his first impressions of her. He thought she was depressed because he only saw her on the couch with a blanket. She didn’t speak to him or move, and he felt bad that she had no life or no energy.

His interpretation set up such dissonance in my head because even though I know there was some depression, it didn’t sound like her. My impression had been her hyper-connecting with his friends because she was unhappy and unfulfilled.

She got upset with both of us–feeling bad that he had experienced her like that, and saying I made her sound like she’d had affairs!

For the record, she didn’t, and I knew that, she was trying too hard to control everything, and make it perfect. But a whole picture took two days and three hours of talking to put all the pieces in the right gestalt.

Suddenly it came clear–he was the only friend of her ex-husband that she didn’t like, and didn’t want him hanging out with. She thought he was a bad influence, so she didn’t give him the time of day. Wouldn’t even get up or acknowledge him! That would have been consistent with who she was then. (Happily, not anymore.)

How funny that four years later, she thinks he is the only man in the world. Once she got to know him she began to see that he was much more than she’d thought. In fact, they are a lot alike–God is central in his life as well as hers and obviously brought them together. It’s quite a story, and I can just imagine God smiling.

I think he loves to delight us with surprises. And blow our minds over how much we don’t know! Ever been surprised by God’s graciousness overturning something you were sure you’d judged correctly? He just wants us to stay close.


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God has a sense of humor.

I’m sure of it!

For the past few years He has been taking everything I thought I knew and turning it upside down. The crazy part is, it’s not so that it makes what I believed wrong, just so much smaller than reality. I look at myself and my beliefs and am embarrassed.

One of His first tricks was leading me to a Taoist author that I was in awe of because of her Christ-like life. I’m a deeply committed Christian, but I couldn’t get over how she out-Christed me at every turn in her life. While I was whining and worrying, she was accepting with joy whatever happened, believing Love would use this… and blowing me away.

I was puzzled.

Then we became close friends with a couple who lived and worked most of the time in Africa, and they saw Muslims totally differently than everyone around me. You mean they aren’t all terrorists, full of Holy War? Could Allah and Abba be the same? Then God sent me a Muslim client that I truly enjoyed and bonded with, and we were both amazed at how much we had in common.

There were a few other such anomalies but I’ll skip to my latest one that really has my head stretching. I’ve just spent a week with my daughter who clearly spent the last 9 years of her life doing what she thought was the right thing to do. She was back in my church, her husband even joined, they made good friends, dedicated a baby–and got divorced there. She had been working hard to make a perfect life, but God had other plans.

He wanted her to admit she couldn’t “fix” her marriage, become real, and have a much broader influence.

It is so hard to watch and trust the messiness that comes with it.

But here is the kicker: today she said something that made me wonder if I think I can only love perfect people. My head begin to spin. Theoretically and theologically I know that’s wrong. But I found myself washing lettuce in her kitchen tonight saying to God, “Jesus, I know you weren’t rigid, but yet I think I should be? How crazy is that?”

This is the second year I’ve been writing a short blog on Jesus life that publishes every week-day and takes you through his life in a year.* I’ve loved it. I feel I have gotten to know him so much better. It’s very clear that his life was “messy” to everyone in his church and his culture. Even his closest friends didn’t understand him until he was gone. Yet I believe he was God in the flesh–the only perfect man.

What a conundrum this poses for Christianity! In one ditch we want to proscribe how everyone should live and act. On the other side we say it doesn’t matter how we live because Jesus “paid the price,” He took care of our disobedience. But does this make sense?

Jesus lived in God’s presence; getting every day’s plans from the Father–total communion. And mostly it shocked the religious community and looked messy. Our world could only tolerate such a pure heart for three years before we killed him for being too messy–way too messy.

Does this mean that we have to trust that God is leading those of us who want to be led by Him even if it looks and feels messy?

Do we have to let go of controlling others, and trust what God is doing with them? Trust their relationship with God and not try to correct it?

*http://Godhelps.net/God-in-a-Box–Your Inbox

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Gun Control? Really? First of a Three-part Series on the Real Issues. How Did This Happen?




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 Most of us are affected by the horrible manifestations of violence in our society whether touched personally or not.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t last long enough for change to happen. Or we go down a rabbit trail like gun control instead of addressing the real problems:

Ignorance, Inattention, Brokenness.

But unless we listen to the wise words of George Bernard Shaw who said,
“We have some problems that are going to be around a long time unless someone sits down and thinks about them for fifteen minutes,” we aren’t likely to get any real change.


We don’t know what causes it and we just want to control the behavior or the weapons, because that’s what fear does—raises the need for control. We don’t have time to investigate, to address underlying causes.


Or we just don’t want to because it’s messy, expensive, and not politically correct. We would get into other issues we don’t want to deal with like visual violence, or child abuse—Pandora’s Box. Who wants to be the whistle blower on unpopular, ugly, scary covens that make tons of money and have huge lobbies? It’s hard!

Then there is just plain ignorance that comes from happiness.

I’m not sure we are all that happy, but we want to be, and we have raised the collective consciousness enough to know that focusing on ugly doesn’t make it.

But do we know what does?

And are we willing to suit up to protect the innocents? Even for fifteen minutes?

Do parents know that children need boundaries in order to be secure? Do they know that “No” is a more important part of love than saying “Yes”? Or are we so caught up in making them happy that we allow them to make their own entertainment choices and way too much of it?

Do parents know how much children need to be outside playing, using their imaginations and their muscles? Do we know how much they need age-appropriate responsibilities? And that too much power creates stress that is extremely damaging to developing brains? (Saying no is stressful for you but not for them even though it looks and sounds like it).

Do they know how important nutrition is, and even what it is, or how it affects well-being? The First Lady has been trying to make a dent here.

But why do people like Jamie Oliver meet such opposition in trying to educate us nutritionally? Do people love ignorance? Do they think it’s going to cost too much?

I was blessed to grow up with information and an inquisitive mind, but I am amazed in my conversations and observations how many people truly didn’t learn this from their parents and consequently can’t pass it on. It’s not their fault they’re ignorant, but it is their responsibility. So is it the responsibility of those of us who know these things to get the word out.


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