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Perspective Help, Please!

Thank God the poison ivy didn’t come until my three grandsons I was babysitting went with their dad!

I have been with my daughter in early labor for two weeks. Not our usual great time…

The baby came three days ago, the boys went with their dad for three days, and I am covered with poison ivy! I have it head to toe–even on my ears–and can’t figure out how I got it!

I can’t hold the baby or even help very much, and this morning I woke up with a brand new patch, and the old ones itching til I feel crazy. Nothing I am doing–inside or out seems to be making it go away. I can control the itching for 4 hours at a time, but THEN I can hardly refrain from scratching, or touching it until I get it all covered again. I hate cold showers, but they help!

Clearly it is systemic. Yes, I was stressed; yes, I had lost sleep; yes, I wasn’t eating well; yes, I wasn’t exercising; yes, they have it in their backyard, but I hadn’t touched it that I knew of.

I am trying to be grateful. Thank God they had poison ivy cream; I travel with essential oils, but didn’t bring what I needed.

My daughter had it for two months during her pregnancy, I’ve had it for two days.

While there is a lot I could do here, there is nothing expected.

While I’m crazy when it’s itching, there are long stretches when it isn’t. And I don’t feel sick.

I can’t hold the baby or help much, but I wouldn’t be if I’d gone with my husband to visit our other daughter anyway.

I didn’t get to see our other two grandsons, but they got grandpa, and my daughter is coming here. Plus these boys are gone so no one’s jumping on me at 5:30 a.m. or begging me to play…

I’m sleeping well, can’t hear the baby in my room–with the other three, I woke up when they did, and often couldn’t sleep again.

That helped–it’s quite a long list!

The horrible itching I woke up to is almost gone.

But the poison ivy isn’t going away! It isn’t resolved!

Ah-h, my son-in-law said swimming in a chorinated pool would take it away. His boss has one, their neighbors have one… maybe I’ll get brave enough to ask…

Even chlorine has it’s purpose.

I feel like a leper, but I’m not, and I’m not helpless.

It’s like living on this planet: it’s uncomfortable, and at times seems intolerable, but there is a remedy. And recognizing it starts with gratitude–looking for the good. I’m glad I wrote this. I feel much better.

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Doorways of Gratitude and Thanks

I love doorways and collect pictures of ones that move me on Pinterest. I guess they inspire me because they represent a change–a new place, a new way. Perhaps it’s a way in, perhaps a way out. But many times change is good.

Tonight I’m thinking of the doorway of gratitude. Thankfulness changes our perspective. You can’t be grateful, thankful, and negative at the same time. You may start negative–even in a very dark place, but when you start being thankful for even the smallest things, changes begin to happen in your brain–physically. It turns off the negative hormone drip–literally.

Or try giving thanks for a big dark occurrence or impossibility. Suddenly, it doesn’t seem quite as hopeless or impossible.

It makes sense that the season of giving is preceded by a season of thanksgiving. Being thankful opens us up to giving.

Have you ever felt irritated with the thought of buying gifts for everyone in October, only to discover that by December 1 you feel very different about it? Thanksgiving came in between. No one even noticed, but a shift happened.

It happened to me this year. And I’m not a grinch. In fact, I live in gratitude a lot; I practice it. And still what seemed like an unwelcome expectation November 1, by December 1 seemed like an exciting opportunity and challenge. (We put a $10 limit on gifts this year, and now it feels good again. I’ve come to greatly dislike the commercial aspect of Christmas.)

You might want to dispense with money entirely and give yourself. Write individual notes telling what you appreciate in the members of your family. Everyone needs encouragement. Even some who seem not to. They may actually need it more. But very few of us need another “thing”.

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