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Sweet Cinema Therapy

If you haven’t seen “Hacksaw Ridge,” go see it. And after that, see if you can find “The Prizewinner of Defiance Ohio” starring Marianne Moore. We happened upon it on TV, and it was fabulous in a different way than Hacksaw, but the attitude of courage, purpose and humor that carries the main character is the same. Inspiring.
This is also a true story, this time a woman’s. And it may be as rough to watch as the carnage of war if you had an alcoholic father, but the spirit of the mother makes it all worth it. Besides, Marianne Moore does a great job. There are a couple of conversations she has with her daughter (the one who wrote it, I think) that are worth the time investment. And her mother reminded me somewhat of mine–that indomitable spirit–the aspiring writer–lots of kids.

I love movies. But I hate them, too. I love inspiring ones–especially when they are well done–so you can watch them over and over and get inspired again.  “Shadowlands” is one of those. “Bagger Vance” is another. But I  hate them because it is such a powerful tool for garbage that influences.

I don’t think it is any surprise that society is getting more violent, when TV and movies are filled with violence. I had a client years ago who was addicted to violence–he was under 25,  and he educated me. At that time I hadn’t heard of that addiction; but he was very clear.

Is anyone else concerned about us becoming a watching society? Living vicariously instead of our own lives. Getting more disconnected from others.

Today we have a problem with our young getting radicalized, and it happens fast. It’s scary. But is it any surprise? We are marketing violence. We are consuming it as entertainment! Becoming desensitized. It’s often shown as the solution–as strength even.

Are you familiar with the term imprinting? It’s a word in my field that describes the indelible effect left on human and animal species immediately after birth: faces, forms, voices, even smells. And it happens to a lesser effect throughout life. A scripture speaks of it as well, “By beholding we become changed.”

It’s one of those things that has to be controlled from inside by choice. It isn’t easy. Especially if you have developed a taste for violence or vicarious evil. It is so insidious, and it hooks us so fast. One client told me that one porno movie was all it took and he was hooked!

Choice is becoming more and more critical. Don’t make life hard for yourself–make good choices.


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A Truly Amazing Tribute!

On Veteran’s Day my husband and I went to see Hacksaw Ridge. I’m not big on war movies, but I knew this one was a true story and had heard bits and pieces of it. My friend who is like a brother is one of the visionaries behind it; the one responsible for it becoming a movie. He knew the main character and finally convinced him. It took years and finally…

There is something beautiful that’s hard to put into words about Andrew Garfield’s portrayal of Doss. I was shocked an actor could play it so well! For two days I kept seeing his smiling eyes! It’s a single-mindedness, a oneness that could be called pure intention–not pushy, not-I’m-better-than-you, just the freedom of conviction. In Family Systems Theory we call it differentiation–the ability of a person to be his true self regardless of pressure.

I’d heard it was powerful, and that Mel Gibson had done an amazing job with it, but I was not prepared for the power of it. It really isn’t even a war movie. Someone called it a war story to Gibson, and he said he saw it as a love story all the way through. I have to agree.

Yes, it’s gory in places, true-to-life sickening, war is, and I shut my eyes a lot; but it’s a story of solid-self and conviction, being true to yourself and trusting God with the outcome. It’s sweet, it’s funny, and it’s also an amazing story of family systems and Bowen’s theory that one committed person who differentiates and sticks to his path pulls up the whole system to a new level of functioning. Also how God honors people who make promises to Him and keep them. Powerful.

It’s a story that makes you want to be more than you are; one that makes love look good in the clash between good and evil. Thanks Fred. I’m so glad you stuck to your conviction. Your vision and God selecting the producer, the director and the actors have made an experience that’s an all-time great. I’m so excited we are going to see it again today!

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