Does your life get dry from stress and focusing on everything you have to get done, or things that could go wrong?
That’s because you aren’t a machine. You weren’t meant to be a human doing, but a human being. Relationships are more important than anything you do.
But we are so busy! Or so scared!
Twice this weekend we were privileged to have over friends whose conversation was easily and naturally sprinkled with spirituality.
Afterwards, my husband and I remarked how pleasant it was to have conversations laced with God. The secular so easily takes over the spiritual in life, and it was refreshing to have it so easily incorporated with no effort.
Maybe I noticed because I had just spent a week with my daughter and felt that camaraderie. Or maybe because I had just watched Rob Bell’s “Everything is Spiritual” again with my eight-year-old grandson (his idea). I think it is so sweet that he loves it and watches it over and over–there is a lot I barely comprehend!
If you haven’t seen it, it is well worth the hour, very entertaining, and definitely demonstrates how we are more than human doings. It’s something I have been saying for years. But he says it so well with such detail.
Relationships are my work, and I don’t think they are easy for any of us. They certainly aren’t for me. And I know more about them than most people.
I think when you find people that you really feel safe with, (the definition of intimacy) it is special. People that allow you to just be yourself without evaluation or judgment. Of course it helps if you share the same value system, but you can’t always count on that to make you safe.
And then of course the question comes: Am I that kind of person? Do I make people feel safe? Am I more concerned about how I look or enjoying them?
Understanding people helps provide acceptance. But that takes time.
Are you setting up life to be fulfilling? Or are you hiding behind a mask, letting life dictate to you?